||[03 Jun 2010|10:20pm]
I made a list of all the words Eve can produce, either verbally or with sign. (She understands a lot more.)
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There's been a pretty dramatic upswing in the last month or so. This week she's been picking up a couple of new words every day.
Most of the words Eve knows she learned first from the Baby Signing Time DVDs. She seems to really enjoy being able to sign, so I'd like to keep learning more signs with her.
|helpful tips for happy postpartum visits
||[28 Oct 2008|04:55pm]
In the first five days of my baby's life I've noticed there's a spectrum of desirability to postpartum houseguests. The best ones call first, bring ready-to-eat food and/or other useful things, clean up after themselves, ask to pitch in with housework, briefly ogle the baby, and leave soon afterwards. The worst ones show up emptyhanded, without calling first, help themselves to your food, don't clean up after themselves, and linger.
Parents of newborns are sleep deprived, physically and mentally exhausted, highly emotional, and fragile creatures. They can barely manage the sudden nonstop 24 hour rigors involved in keeping Baby happy and healthy. They can barely manage to remember to brush their teeth, in the unlikely even they find they have a spare minute to do so. They are not in a position to entertain you properly as a houseguest.
Trying to figure out how to keep someone alive via your nipples while you're still leaking who-knows-what from your profoundly sore underbits, on no sleep, is even harder than it sounds.
So, I present to you, Internet Public, my Etiquette Guide for Postpartum Visitors.
1. UNDER NO CIRCUMSTANCES SHOULD YOU SHOW UP AT THE HOUSE WITHOUT PRIOR AUTHORIZATION. If she's awake, your unshowered, sticky, topless, sobbing friend will not appreciate it. If she and the baby were sleeping, she may murder you.
2. Come planning to bring and/or do something useful. Don't come over expecting to just hang out. Bring something edible that requires zero preparation. And/or something we need, like a bag of groceries or additive-free laundry soap or a tube of lanolin. Offer to fill/run/empty the dishwasher, fold laundry, or take out the trash.
3. Don't ask us to get anything for you, or expect us to do anything for you requiring any sort of effort. No, we can't get you something to drink. Or hang up your coat. Or listen to you complain about all the drama going down in your life. It's not that we don't love you; we do. Yes, we really are *that* tired/busy/preoccupied.
5. You will probably see nipples, and/or baby genitals. Kindly do not stare at them. It's weird if you do.
6. Don't stay long. Babies need to nurse every two hours. Everyone involved appreciates downtime in the interim. Your visit, while probably very welcome, is not downtime.
7. Leave no physical evidence you were here. If you used dishes, put them in the dishwasher. If you brought a meal, put the leftovers in the fridge. If you used or disturbed any household items at all, tidy up after yourself before leaving.
That's all I have so far. More later as gross transgressions of basic courtesy develop. (If either of them shows up again, I'm officially banning my brother and his girlfriend from my house. Bitches, please!)
8. Wash your hands upon arrival, especially if you want to touch or hold the baby.
9. Don't come over if you're sick, or have recently been around anyone who is sick. She can roll in the mud and eat worms to her heart's content when she's older, but in the meantime, no germs around baby!